Monthly Archives: December 2015

Faith is the Answer to Your Fear!


How do you get rid of fear of failure?  Faith.  That’s why the third step in starting over is Act in faith.  Faith is not the absence of fear.  Faith is moving ahead in spite of your fear.  Faith is doing the thing you fear the most.  Doing the thing you fear the most, even when you’re scared to death and you’re trembling while you do it, you move ahead in spite of your feelings.  That’s faith.  It’s doing the thing you fear the most.

Moses led the children of Israel out of Egypt and bondage of 400 years.  They’re come out, they’ve been set free by Pharaoh, and they came up to the Red Sea.  There are mountains on either side, the Red Sea in front of them, Pharaoh’s army in hot pursuit behind them.  The only way they’ll be saved is somehow get through that Red Sea.  Then God said, “I’ll just open it up and you guys walk through it.”  Would you like to have been the first person to have walked through it?  You get out about a mile or two and wonder if the walls were going to hold up because it’s a long way back to shore.

You’re going to have some Red Sea problems in your life in ’16.  You’re going to say, “Let’s go over the Red Sea.  Let’s go around the Red Sea.  Let’s go under it.”  God says, “No, let’s go through it.  I’m going to take you through the problem.  I’m not going to remove that problem; I’m going to take you through it.”  Act in faith and keep walking.  Act in faith and He’ll take you through the Red Sea.

Where do you need to act in faith today?  Where do you need to take steps of faith to start over?

Are You Praying for Your Pastor?


The second most important ministry event has now ended, and it is at this time of the year, many pastors, plan for and take their annual sabbatical from ministry and spend that time, refreshing their own walks with Christ, or spend that time doting on our families who too often get overlooked or set aside for the greater good of the church and the families that it represents.

But most pastors, like me, rarely get that opportunity to unplug, getaway and put that focus back on our families.  70% of our local pastors, which represent 80% of our churches, (those with membership numbers under 100) are for the most part bi-vocational, meaning the finances of the church are not strong enough to keep a pastor on full-time and as a result, that pastor often will work another full-time job.  This even further spreads that pastor’s life thin, and often results in burnout, and many times, an early exit from ministry.

It is at this time of the year, that membership, (who should be praying for and looking for ways to serve alongside their pastors), should also look to step up their game, and look for extra tasks, to find extra time to serve or just look for new ways to encourage and lift up those pastors, who have the responsibility of caring for our spiritual health and the accountability for that health.

Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers; for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness.  James 3:1

Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.   Hebrews 13:17

It is too easy to look at a situation from our own perspective, and see a perceived slight, and want to act out or be critical of our pastors, or otherwise become resentful towards them or a member of their families.  While there are certainly opportunities for improvement in all of our lives, I would encourage all of us, to look at a situation from a neutral perspective, and realize, there are many times other things working in the lives of our pastors, that may be creating his distance or his lack of focus.

A few years ago, a pastor friend’s congregation rose up in opposition to him, because all of a sudden he was no longer available to them, was never in the office anymore and his time in the pulpit had become seemingly uninspired.  He just seemed to be completely disconnected from the church family and all of a sudden taking more time away from the church and while he was there his family wasn’t.  After about six months of this and after one of those (all too often) secret meetings was held, it was decided that they would ask for the pastor’s resignation.

When the Sunday came that they would ask him to stay after so they could take their chosen action, at the end of the service, he asked the congregation to sit for a moment, and began to explain to the church that after several months of seeking doctors and trying to find a diagnosis, his wife of 23 years had been diagnosed with cancer and that it was inoperable, and they had been told, there really was only a short time left.  As a result, he would be resigning effective immediately to spend those last weeks with her and his family.

Not every pastor’s disconnect is going to be related to illness or grief, sometimes it is due to his own failure to stay within moral boundaries, burnout or has become discouraged from lack of help, no time for a personal life or realizing that ministry has been causing him to neglect his own family to meet the needs of another.

So, when you are tempted to meet the pastor at the back door of the church to offer advice (complain) or to point to some ministry that you think the pastor should be doing, I want you to look at that pastor and his life from a new perspective, before you complain, condemn or criticize him.  While there are some legitimate areas where critique or rebuke may be necessary, there are some areas that should not.  I want to point you to a few of those that are justified scripturally.

  1. They don’t preach the gospel.

As in, they actually don’t preach Christ’s finished work.  Not that they don’t emphasize the points you would or they don’t present the gospel the way you prefer or they don’t give an altar call or they miss this angle of the good news or that one or they don’t preach like Graham or Sunday or Piper or Falwell — but that they actually don’t preach the gospel(Titus 1:9; Galatians 2:11-14)

  1. They are regularly engaging in sins or unhealthy habits that would disqualify them from the office of pastor.

Maybe he’s cheating on his wife or engaging in other sexual immorality.  He’s a drunk.  He has no self-control.  His reputation in the community is terrible.  He’s inhospitable.  He doesn’t know how to teach.  He’s violent.  He’s domineering or emotionally, verbally, or otherwise psychologically abusive.  He doesn’t take care of his wife and kids.  He does not submit to his authorities.   He’s undisciplined or lazy.  He doesn’t rebuke those who contradict sound doctrine, won’t correct heresy or protect the flock from wolves.  He himself teaches doctrine in contradiction to the tenets of the faith.  (1 Timothy 3:1-7; Titus 1:5-9; 1 Peter 5:1-8)

While a seemingly short list, it is not exclusive and these can be applied in various ways.  But just because you may have a reason to criticize him, it doesn’t mean you can do that however you want.  All correction should come gently, personally and privately first, and if necessary beyond that, include witnesses. (Matthew 18:15-18)  It should be done with humility, respectfully, lovingly and with grace, as grace was administered unto you by Jesus Christ himself.

There are ways to have conversations with your pastor that will sharpen him and encourage him toward improvements without criticizing him.  And there are ways to make suggestions without criticizing or complaining (but be sure you’re actually doing that, not just being passive aggressive).

And it can go the other way too!  There are plenty of times you should not criticize your pastor!  Here are a few of those:

  1. He just kind of annoys you, rubs you the wrong way! He cannot be all things to all people!
  2. He’s not your best friend, or you don’t really like his wife! In many of our churches, (especially those perceived pastor-eating ones) the safest place for your pastor and his family is at arm’s length. Relational hurts within the church happen, and more often than not, the ministry family just has to grin and bear it, like nothing ever happened!  But it did happen and it will cause resentment if you are not watchful for it!

And on a side note:  The pastor’s wife is not paid, she is a volunteer just like you!  You should not expect more from her than you expect from yourself!

  1. He’s not as dynamic, outgoing, animated or interesting as you would like.
  2. His decisions aren’t really sinful or unhealthy, just not what you would do or the way you would do it!
  3. You are the pastor’s personal thorn, and you feel an obligation to express your every critical thought! Maybe you should be spending more time praying for him!
  4. You don’t understand something he has said or done. (This is cause for questions not complaints!)
  5. He is not ____________enough! Could be political, creative, extroverted, outdoorsy, indoorsy, skinny, fat or hairy! (Fill in the blank)

Or any unlimited bunch of things that the Bible does not condemn or forbid!

This may seem a little burdensome when you feel like you ought to be able to say whatever you feel, however you feel, whenever you feel it.  But your pastor bears similar burdens.  He likely has multiple people with “helpful suggestions” speaking to him every week.  Measure your thoughts out appropriately, choose the right hills to die on, and pray for your pastor.  He needs it.

While everyone will agree the pastor’s job is to love the people he has the God-given responsibility to care for, it is also your responsibility to love him, showing double respect for him (Scripture says they are ‘worthy of double honor’), spending time reaffirming that love and appreciation and most importantly, spending time praying for him and being devoted to praying for him!

And while he may not realize what a handful you are, you do, and that should be reason enough to cut him a little slack, especially at the back door on the way out of the church on Sundays!  And if, as a result of your prayerful consideration of these matters, you find yourself, wanting more than he can deliver, you may need to prayerfully seek out a peaceful resolution and quite possibly another place of worship and service is in your future!

When You don’t know what to pray, God does! Trust His Spirit!

The Bible says “When we’re weak and we’re tired God’s Spirit is right alongside helping us along.  If we don’t know how to pray, [we don’t know what to pray,] it doesn’t matter. He does… [God’s Spirit] does our praying in us and for us, making prayers out of our wordless sighs and our aching groans.”  God prays for you when you’re in pain.

How does God pray to himself?  Oh, you never talk to yourself?  You talk to yourself all the time. You’re doing it right now.  You have a running commentary going.   You talk to yourself all the time.  When God talks to himself we just call it prayer.

But the Bible says that God talks to himself about your pain when you’re in pain.  What a God! He isn’t just aware of it.  He cares and he talks to himself, he prays about it. It says he makes prayers out of wordless sighs and aching groans. Have you ever been so beat up, so broken down, hurt, your heart’s so broken?  You don’t know what to pray. The Bible says the Holy Spirit interprets those groans to himself.  He gets it, he knows what you’re feeling.  And he turns them into prayers.

Did you know that God has kept a record of every hurt you’ve ever gone through? That’s how much he loves you.  The Bible says “You keep track of all my sorrows.  You have collected all my tears in your bottle.  You have recorded each one in your book.” 

“Jesus sympathizes with our weaknesses since he faced all of the same temptations we do.”

The Bible says this: “Jesus sympathizes with our weaknesses since he faced all of the same temptations we do.” Been there, done that. Jesus understands emotional pain.

He knows what it’s like to feel abandoned because he’s been abandoned.  If you’ve ever been betrayed by anybody, Jesus knows what betrayal’s like. If anybody has ever been unfaithful to you, Jesus knows what it’s like to have people be unfaithful to him.  He knows what it’s like to be misunderstood, criticized falsely. Jesus knows what it feels like to be lonely, the pain of loneliness.  He experienced that.  He knows what it’s like to be so fatigued you don’t think you could put one foot in front of the other.  He understands that.  Jesus understands bigotry and prejudice and racism.  He knows what it means to be outcast, to be put down, to be misunderstand, to be discriminated against. He understands every emotional thing you could ever go through. Emotional pain.

He understands physical pain.  If you’re in physical pain right now, God understands that because he’s experienced physical pain.  He came to earth in human form. And Jesus went through all the things that we do in life. Then when he died he died on a cross.

It’s hard to think of a more excruciating pain than the torture of crucifixion. It’s about one of the top most painful ways to die.  Because in a crucifixion your hands and your feet are crossed and in this position with your hands up, it creates pressure on the chest cavity and you can’t breathe. So you have to stand up on your feet that are nailed to the cross in order to breathe.  You hold that position until you can’t handle it anymore and you let down to get off the pain.  Death on a cross is up and down, up and down. It often took days. It was intentionally cruel, intentionally torture because it was the death for criminals.  Often if they wanted to hasten it, they would break a man’s legs so he couldn’t stand up any more and then he’d suffocate.  He understands the physical pain you go through.

Jesus understands mental pain, mental anguish.  He understands spiritual anguish and pain.  How do I know that?  Because on the cross he took all of our sin and the guilt for all of our sins on his life. Let’s think this through. You know how bad you feel when you feel guilty over just one thing?  When you feel guilty over something you feel really bad about it.

Imagine feeling bad about taking the guilt of every sin ever committed, every crime ever committed, by every person in all of history on you at one point.  Can you imagine the mental anguish you would go through?  Jesus, on the cross, took the guilt for every rape ever committed. For every molested child ever committed. For every spouse that’s been abused, he took all of that guilt. He took the guilt for every murder, for every adultery, for every unfaithfulness. He took the guilt for all the genocides of history and the six million Jews who were killed in the Holocaust by Nazis.  He took the guilt for all of that. He took all the guilt of every person on himself. He understands mental anguish.  He understands what that is to go through.

So God made you. He understands it. Jesus experienced it.  So he understands.

“I Will Always Love You!” God

The Bible says this in Psalm 145:  “God showers compassion on all his creation.” He showers compassion on everybody, everybody he’s created.

One of my pet peeves is water-saving shower heads.  I hate those suckers!   Just a little bitty stream coming down…  Don’t call it a shower; it’s a dribble!   Here’s this little stream coming down, I’m  pretty big guy and it’d take me a long time to get wet with one little dribble and having spent a lot of time in crappy hotels where there are just little dribbles coming out, don’t call it a shower unless it’s a shower!

The Bible says God showers his love on you. He doesn’t dribble it out a little bit at a time. He’s not stingy like shower heads are with water.  Psalm 42 “Each day the Lord pours out his unfailing love on me.”   He pours it out.

When I eat a salad and I use salad dressing I’m not one of these people who dips the fork in the salad dressing and a little bit of taste.  No!   I’m pouring it on.  In fact, I want more dressing than salad actually.  I’m pouring it on.

When I eat a hot fudge sundae, I want to pour on the fudge.  I don’t want a little dabble. I want to pour it on.

God pours his love on you all the time.  Let me be clear about this. God loves you unconditionally, but he does not approve of everything you do. Unconditional love does not mean unconditional approval.  Those of you who are parents, do you love your kids? Of course you do.  Do you approve of everything they do?  No.  Do you still love them?  Yes.  My wife doesn’t approve of everything I do, but she still loves me.

God loves you unconditionally.  He does not approve… that does not mean that just because God loves you, you can just do whatever you want to do and it doesn’t make God sad or upset.   In other words, God’s not saying, “Go ahead and ruin your life.  Mess it up, screw it up.  Do whatever you want to do. Ignore me.”  No.  He doesn’t approve of that.  But he loves you unconditionally.

And no matter what you do you can’t make God stop loving you.